March 31, 2008
Home Visit in Vietnam
I was so exhausted from the travel to the Perfume Pagoda that getting up to go to K2 hospital today was a struggle for the first time since I got here. I think that my biorhythms are resetting so that I now feel sleepy at the right time of day.
The waitresses at the hotel already knows my breakfast order by heart. I feel bad about not leaving a tip for such good service but tipping is not considered appropriate. Then it was off to the K2 by taxi. I know the way now and when he tried to turn down Huong Trih I knew to say “What are you doing!” and he went on straight to 1 and the hospital in record and safe time. Professor Yen had asked me to come to the morning meeting and we got into a good discussion of Colon Cancer staging and treatment.
Afterwards I got to meet Dr. Yen for the first time. She is wonderful to spend time with and her patients are so fond of her and appreciate her obviously good care. I will digress on names here for a moment. There are only about 20 different surnames in Vietnam. So you can not use them for every day. Therefore people go by there first name so Mr., Mrs., Dr. or in this case Professor Yen (pronounced like Ian). However while there are more first names, some are very popular and are frequently not gender specific. Therefore I am working with many Yen’s, Houng’s and Thuey’s. We visited together a hospitalized patient and an outpatient with the residents participating and I think I am making progress with understanding how to be helpful. Afterwards, we ate lunch together in the doctor's work room. Dr. Yen told me that many visitors were surprised to be asked personal questions about family and marriage, children etc. but that I had asked her these questions before she could ask me. I told her that I had read before coming to expect this, so I thought that my new Vietnamese colleagues would expect the same from me. I did not tell her that I was like this at home anyway and that I love the fact I can indulge myself in being inquisitive; my wife might another name for this behavior.
After lunch we were supposed to do home visits. This was starting to rattle me because Eric called and said he could not come, Cuong was gone and now Dr. Yen was not going to be able to go. She did prepare me for the visit and the home nurse, and Houng and Thuey and I went. Of course they had picked a good prospect; delightful women, living with her daughter, who had cancer and the lived together in a nice home. The house was down some very small alleys off a main boulevard in Hai Ba Trong District. We all had to take off our shoes to come in and then talked about her symptoms and I did a brief exam, answered questions and told her that I would report back to Bac Sy Yen. She told the resident doing translation that I had not made her sad like some doctors did. She worries about what will happen if Bac Sy Yen is out of town when she needs her.
Then back to the apartment to work on lecture. This may not seem that busy but with translation and teaching it is a full day. It is like doing 3-4 new consults.
Was able to get groceries, use my ATM successfully and get coffee from my new favorite Vietnamese coffee house that also already knows my order. More on the Pagoda trip when I can process it more.